Sunday, July 17, 2005

有關穿耳洞的碎碎念

傳說一但穿了耳洞,下輩子就會變成女生。於是,這個傳說成了我遲遲到2003年聖誕夜才跑去穿耳洞的原因。因為,我曾經無法真心認同自已的性別,希望各方面的表現能跟男生一樣,甚致暗暗怨嘆自己為何不是男兒身。

大學時期修了幾門與女性主義相關的課程,老師一開始就強調,“性別”代表男女有別,但不代表男性優於女性,或是女性優於男性。問題出在傳統男尊女卑、重男輕女的觀念,造成長久以來“男強女弱”的刻板印象。

時代在變,人的觀念也在變。但我無法接受某些自信不足的男生,不但不充實自已,反而要求女性要弱。更讓我無法接受的,是為了迎合這些自信不足的男性,而硬是“求弱”的的女性。印象最深的,是當年有個朋友的媽媽,聽說我要唸台大法律,竟然開始告誡我,女生書讀太多,男生不喜歡,以後很難嫁。照這種邏輯,為了提高被男生喜歡的機率,優秀的女性寧可屈就一點,免得書讀太多,或太會賺錢,以後反而嫁不出去。更諷刺的是,坊間的各式整型美容廣告,不斷主張女人該更美麗,符合一些莫名的尺寸,才能抓住男人眼光。

當然,我無力也無意改變任何人的想法,只是有感於許多女性的自信/安全感,其實來自於男性的目光,而不是對自我的肯定。打了耳洞之後,除了認同自己的性別,更喜歡鼓勵身邊的女生,要相信自己的潛力,欣賞自己與眾不同的特質。有自信的笑容才美。

7 Comments:

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Blogger 陶樂絲鄧 said...

Actually, we should do a show in Taiwan. Our logo could be--史上最胖的女子耍寶團體

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